The Fear of Getting Hurt AGAIN

How would I know that I can TRUST someone?

How would I know that they are NOT LYING to me?

How would I know that they are NOT HIDING something from me?

How would I know that they will NOT CHEAT on me?

How would I know that they will NEVER LEAVE me?

How would I know that they will NOT BECOME CLINGY/POSSESSIVE?

How would I know that they will NOT STOP LOVING me?

I'm scared.

Then isn't the best solution is to avoid relationships and be happy on my own?

My answer: If you feel that this is the right answer, then being alone would have brought you peace and rest. But it hasn't because even after trying this, you are still worried.

So, wouldn't it be a Right conclusion THAT YOU ARE WRONG!

If you are OK to accept that you are wrong and you want to find a solution, then continue reading...

The solution for this problem has 2 steps!

First, understand one thing with crystal clarity that no matter how much self work you do, there is endless supply of people and situations that will test your patience, tolerance, resilience, trust, confidence and self-worth.

Self Work or Healing Work or Spirituality doesn't guarantee that such people and situations won't come but rather it gives you the capabilities to handle them.

1️⃣ If you have learnt

▪️How to identify your own Red Flags?

▪️How to Set Healthy Boundaries?

▪️How to Stop being Taken for Granted?

▪️How to Stop People Pleasing?

▪️How to Overcome Grief?

Then you already have the capabilities to handle such people and situations.

Earlier, when you didn't know all this, then you were getting STUCK.

Now you have the ability to spot such people and situations AND even if you fall for them, then you won't be STUCK. You will recover quickly.

And this is as far Self Work or Healing Work or Spirituality can take you to.

So, if you feel confident that you have the capabilities required to GET UNSTUCK, then you are good.

2️⃣ If you haven't learnt those lessons yet OR you tried but the doubts are still there, then your Self Work or Healing Work hasn't completed yet.

In such case, I recommend that you continue your reading with this post...

This is a well researched post written by Anamika and if you are serious about resolving this problem, then please read the full blog slowly and carefully.