This is a story from Osho.
At a party, a guy was walking with a cup full of tea. It was filled right up to the brim. He was walking very slowly, very carefully and with full undivided focus on the cup. He did not want to bump into anyone otherwise the tea would spill.
Suddenly, a waiter comes out of nowhere and bumps into him. The tea spills!!
Osho asks, "Why did the tea spill?"
Logical answer is, "Because the waiter bumped."
Osho being Osho smiles wittingly and says, "The tea spilled because the cup had tea in it. If the cup had juice, then juice would spill. If the cup had milk, then milk would spill. If the cup had water, then water would spill."
What does this mean?
What is Osho pointing to?
We are all walking with our hearts filled with anger, rage, sadness, resentments, guilts, griefs and so on...
People will bump into us.
People will trigger us.
When anger comes out, when resentment comes out, then they didn't put it there. It was already there.
I was walking very very carefully so it doesn't spill out!
But when it spills out, then I blame the person who triggered me. I point finger at that person. But I never bring my awareness to the fact that I was already carrying it in my heart!
So, where did it come from?
That's a good question now!
There are many reasons for it to be there...
Mother Wounds
Father Wounds
Childhood Traumas/Abuse
Unhealed Emotional Setbacks
Unresolved Grief from Loss
and many more...
All these lead to us
Adopting Insecure Attachment Styles
Unable to Set Healthy Boundaries
Creating Toxic/Wounded Masculine & Feminine Energies
Unable to Embrace Vulnerability
Unable to Trust
Unable to Love ourselves and others
Unable to Receive Gracefully
and many more...
How to fix this?
To solve a problem, it is very important to diagnose the root cause properly first.
Here is how you can do that...
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